The therapist explains how to deal with an ‘overly negative’ partner – and when to leave

Here are some positive tips to help you deal with a negative person.

Jeff Guenther, who goes by @therapyjeff online, recently shared “eight ways to deal with an overly negative partner.”

He first suggested that people validate the negative things their partner is talking about “so they feel understood and empathized.”

Guenther noted that most people have probably tried it — but urged them to give it another shot with that in mind.

“Maybe they keep repeating themselves because that’s all they need from you. Feel free to meet them where they are and be a little negative, just don’t live there,” he said.

The therapist also advised people to be “upfront” about how their partner’s attitude affects them.

If they persist with negativity, Guenther recommended that people create a “negativity-free zone.”

“It sounds silly, but it works well. Set aside specific times and spaces where grievances and complaints are completely off the table,” he said.

Guenther also suggested that people set “emotional boundaries” and be clear about their ability to handle negativity.

For example, someone might set a limit and say, “I want to support you, but I only have about 15 minutes to listen to you now.”

He then recommended that people “encourage problem-solving” and redirect their partner’s thought process from complaining to finding a solution: “What do you think might help fix this?”

The therapist also advised that people try to shift the conversation by changing the subject.

He also encouraged people not to take their partner’s negativity personally.